What does sex mean to you? Pleasure, intimacy and fun? Or pain, humiliation and shame? Love, trust and openness? Or secrecy, isolation, fear and despair?

Sex can mean so many things. 

-You feel great when you make love and everything works well. 

-Or feel bad when you can’t function the way you want to or think you should.

-You experience the joy of exploring and being sexual as much as you want.

-Or feel the pain of not being able to stop yourself from thinking sexual thoughts and doing sex acts compulsively even though the consequences to your life are severe. 

-Sex is a way to feel close to someone you care about.

-Or a terrible reminder of the ways you were abused.

Sexuality can be confusing. Why do we feel the way we do and make the sexual choices we do? How do we stop ourselves from using sex destructively and hurting ourselves and the people we love?    

Sometimes we need help sorting out who we are sexually and how to identify and make changes so we can feel whole and integrated rather than disconnected and wounded.